Card Tricks and being Shy
Card Tricks and being Shy
Learning a few card tricks is a great way for a relatively shy person to break the ice during parties. Even the most diffident individual can interact effectively with perfect strangers in spite of his shy ways. Card tricks help someone who isn’t very comfortable around people engage himself with others pretty easily.
The thing that makes an activity like this so appealing to many people who have trouble in social situations is that it provides a vehicle for interaction. The card tricks are the foundation for the conversations and exchange. Everything is scripted for the magician.
One of the most difficult aspects of dealing with people in social situations is coming up with interesting things to say. For many of us, social conversation tends to be very uncomfortable and quite awkward. Conversing behind card tricks is a great way to ease into a scripted exchange of words that appears to be natural.
Conversation can be challenging for just about everyone. Even outgoing people have moments that they wished that had a card trick or two to hide behind. Finding the right words can be stressful for many individuals. We tend to worry so much about what we are going to say next that we don’t really listen to what is being said.
Listening skills are crucial to appropriate social interaction. Ironically, few people take the time to really listen to what the other person has to say. Think about how many times you meet a new person and you realize that you have forgotten his name within seconds after hearing it. You may have heard the name but you didn’t listen to it. It slipped right past you.
Engaging in an activity like card tricks when interacting with new people will channel your intellectual focus on the task at hand. You can target certain questions and actually give yourself pause to listen to the responses. Part of the usefulness of card tricks during social interaction is control. If you direct the interaction, you maintain control of the interaction.
Of course, you aren’t going to attack a group of strangers at a party with a bunch of card tricks right away. There is nothing wrong with absorbing the situation to get a feel for how you should interact. However, they do come in handy during stale moments and someone who knows you perform tricks will probably ask you to do so. You also may find that you really don’t need the card tricks after all.
Card Tricks
Learning a few card tricks is a great way for a relatively shy person to break the ice during parties. Even the most diffident individual can interact effectively with perfect strangers in spite of his shy ways. Card tricks help someone who isn’t very comfortable around people engage himself with others pretty easily.
The thing that makes an activity like this so appealing to many people who have trouble in social situations is that it provides a vehicle for interaction. The card tricks are the foundation for the conversations and exchange. Everything is scripted for the magician.
One of the most difficult aspects of dealing with people in social situations is coming up with interesting things to say. For many of us, social conversation tends to be very uncomfortable and quite awkward. Conversing behind card tricks is a great way to ease into a scripted exchange of words that appears to be natural.
Conversation can be challenging for just about everyone. Even outgoing people have moments that they wished that had a card trick or two to hide behind. Finding the right words can be stressful for many individuals. We tend to worry so much about what we are going to say next that we don’t really listen to what is being said.
Listening skills are crucial to appropriate social interaction. Ironically, few people take the time to really listen to what the other person has to say. Think about how many times you meet a new person and you realize that you have forgotten his name within seconds after hearing it. You may have heard the name but you didn’t listen to it. It slipped right past you.
Engaging in an activity like card tricks when interacting with new people will channel your intellectual focus on the task at hand. You can target certain questions and actually give yourself pause to listen to the responses. Part of the usefulness of card tricks during social interaction is control. If you direct the interaction, you maintain control of the interaction.
Of course, you aren’t going to attack a group of strangers at a party with a bunch of card tricks right away. There is nothing wrong with absorbing the situation to get a feel for how you should interact. However, they do come in handy during stale moments and someone who knows you perform tricks will probably ask you to do so. You also may find that you really don’t need the card tricks after all.
Card Tricks
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